Ayurvedic advises on Choosing sex partners

Marriage and sexual life occupies a prominent place in the ancient science of life, Ayurveda.  According to this ancient science, to have a happier sexual life, partners should be selected based on certain physical qualities.  The Ayurvedic text Charaka Samhita, explains that like food and sleep, sex too is very important for leading a happy life. However, it goes on to caution that if one exceeds natural sexual limits or has sex with animals or has perverted sex, it can have adverse effects on the mental and physical health on the person and may even kill him/her. 

Size of the genital organs

Physical intimacy and sexual relationship between the partners plays an important role and is the most delicate aspect of human life. 

Depending on the physical appearance of the genital organs, male and female partners are divided into three categories:

Male – Rabbit (small phallus), Bull (normal sized phallus) and Horse (large sized phallus)
Female – Doe (small genitals), Cow (normal sized genitals) and She–elephant (large genitals) 

The ideal match for a satisfying sexual relationship is where the genital organs are well matched, that is ‘rabbit’ with ‘doe’, ‘bull’ with ‘cow’, and ‘horse’ with ‘she-elephant’ . The mismatch may lead not just to disorders but may lead to unhappier life too.  

Female partners

Based on the social conditions, the different kinds of female partners who are fit for sexual relationships, according to Ayurvedic texts, are:  

1.    Spinsters or unmarried women constitute the supreme category.
2.    Remarried women are considered to be ‘mediocre’ category sexual partners.
3.    Prostitutes form the lowest category of sexual partners.

Male partners

Ayurvedic texts do not distinguish between educated and an uneducated man as far as sexual relationships is concerned. An educated man is not considered a ‘gentleman’ unless he has a legitimate wife. This is because Ayurveda gives primary importance to marriage and sexual life. 

Description of the ideal bedroom

1.    The house should be situated in a healthy and clean environment.
2.    Bed room should have a comfortable cot with soft bed and, preferably, white spreads.
3.    The room should be filled with scents and good aroma.
4.    Playing soft and soothing music in the bedroom will enhance the sexual experience.
5.    Light snacks and drinks may be served in the bedroom.

Women who are not fit for coitus 

Ayurveda recommends avoiding the following women for any kind of sexual play and coitus:

1.    Lepers
2.    Insane women
3.    Corrupt women
4.    Characterless women
5.    Backbiters
6.    Women who want to have coitus in broad daylight
7.    Stunted women
8.    Middle aged women
9.    Extremely fair complexioned women
10.  Ascetic women
11.  A friend’s wife
12.  Teacher 
13.  The wife of powerful people such as the king.